Sunday, August 24, 2014

A Little Bit Happy, A Little Bit Excited

Just three years ago, RJ took the plunge: preschool. He was a little bit happy and excited and a whole lot nervous. So was I.



We didn't know much about our little Lutheran school back then. I didn't know that the director would know my son by name. I didn't know that there would be other parents who would listen to stories about boo-boos and offer sympathies and sugars in the halls. I didn't know that I would be ruffling the hair of at least three little boys every morning to say hello. I completely underestimated how quickly our little school would feel like home. 

 I pressed fast forward, and suddenly, we're here: 
Gigi didn't officially start school this week, but she thinks she did. I'll pretend that she did since I'll miss her first official day (sniffle). Being the second-born has its pitfalls. Then again, I know now to buy the big backpack and the insulated lunch bag instead of the little cute toddler sized backpack that crumples all the papers and the adorable tin lunch pail that couldn't keep a peanut butter sandwich from spoiling. 

She looks more nervous than she was. She loves her school. The bonus? Her teacher is Miss America (actually, her name is Merica, but Gigi thinks she's Miss America because she's so pretty.)

This guy wasn't nervous at all. He has come into his own this year, and it eases a mother's heart. 

Of course, it helps that they have each other. 

And there's no substitute for daddy's hand when you need just a little boost of confidence. Daddy gets to take Gigi for her first day too. I'm glad for that. Those two have a thing going on. 

Her daddy is her fiercest protector. So, when, halfway through the first week of school she decided to drink her mouthwash rather than swish it, daddy did what daddies do. He protected her. A call to poison control and a visit from the firemen, and all was deemed well with our little woman. Milk and stickers made it better. 



And she had a great story to tell at when she met her teacher. 

School work is serious business. He knows it's his job. 

School starts too soon. We still have lazing to do by the pool. 

And we took full advantage of the warm after-school afternoons. 

How is this baby really old enough to go to school?

We ended the week with show and tell. He could choose anything he wanted. He chose Bare Bear. He's secure in his manhood. He wouldn't let me take his picture, so I had to sneak one at breakfast. "Mom," he asked me, "Can you put Bare Bear in the spa? I want him to look nice." (Note: Yes, I did tell him the washer is a bear spa. He doesn't like Bare Bear being scared.)  When we tried to think of clues to help his class guess what was in his bag, I asked, "Well, how does Bare Bear feel?" "Happy!" RJ responded. "No, wait! He's excited!" 

As any parent can tell you, often the teddy bear is the key to the child's inner most feelings. I hope Bare Bear is, because I want to believe that RJ was happy and excited this week. New beginnings can be rough. I'm grateful for our little Lutheran school that sent Pastor to the parking lot to welcome each child and make this transition week just a little bit easier. I'm grateful for the hugs in the hallways from teachers and parents alike. I was a little bit nervous this week and a lot excited (which I'll tell you more about soon--I have hours, plural, to clean house and grocery shop alone!).  Mostly, however, I was happy and excited. Our little school makes it easy to say goodbye to summer, and for that, I am most grateful.




Sunday, August 17, 2014

What We Did on Our Summer Vacation

We're not good at family recreation. Nights on the patio are often spent answering emails or rehashing our days at work. Don't misunderstand. We spend a lot of time playing with the kids, and we enjoy each other's company. It's just that, most of the time, we spend our recreation time heavily scheduled and organized: soccer, swim lessons, an hour or two at the neighbor-pool hood (as Gigi would tell you). We were determined to make family vacations a priority, but we never quite had the gumption to book a trip.

Over a year ago, I had a glass of wine (or two) with a friend at my last firm function. In the flush of the moment, she suggested that we join her family on vacation. To my surprise, she (who probably hadn't had quite so much wine as I had) followed up the next day. And, I'm ever so grateful that she did.

Playa del Carmen. A lovely not-so-little town (our driver said it's over 200,000, but you'd never know it). We spent a whole week on the beach with no schedules and blessed little internet access. I got to be my favorite version of mom for seven days: Vacation Mom!

Our adventure began, as always, at the airport:


It was an early flight, and Gigi is not a morning person. (This was supposed to be her first day of school dress, but she cried and wanted to wear it on the airplane. Vacation Mom is cool, and Vacation Mom said "yes."

This was the first plane trip she'll remember. Her brother, however, is an expert and was happy to tell her all about it. At 5 a.m.

"Me? I'm a world traveler. No big deal."

Bare Bear made the trip with us in a drawstring canvas bag. It's a little twisted cramming him in there headfirst upon landing. Vacation Mom has a dark side. 

Kids these days--they have no idea what it was like flying with a paperback, looking forward to a quality hour with Skymall.

Angelina bear made the trip too. She rode in a pink Hello Kitty backpack that somehow didn't seem nearly so dark and twisted. 

Gigi's first look at the ocean. She was overwhelmed and non-too excited at the prospect of waves. 

This guy, on the other hand, loves the surf. But for a raging case of hives, he would have spent the entire week bouncing around in his life jacket. 

Then again, the beach is awfully hard to pass. 


We hadn't even checked into our hotel before this little one was crying to go play in the "big sandbox.' 

Our first night ended with a moonlit walk on the beach. Vacation Mom hangs out in swimwear nearly 24/7; it takes her back to her lifeguarding days when she really did live in swimwear 24/7. 

A lovely end to a lovely first day. 

We built a castle in the moonlight. 

And friendships were solidified. 

These kids. Keep your eyes on them. They're amazing young people who are going to be amazing grown-up people. (Gigi was off running somewhere. She'll be amazing too, but for now, she is two.)

We made it to the big sandbox again. 

And a few more times after that. Once we convinced RJ that seaweed was really just weeds, like dandelions, he was entirely content to settle in at the water's edge. 





I caught Gigi bellied-up to the pool bar. I won't pretend that this doesn't concern me just a bit.

Then again, Vacation Mom enjoyed a few poolside drinks herself.

We made it into town and completely blew RJ's mind. It's quite easy to forget that Mexico is an entirely different culture--until you're back there. It's bright and colorful. Prices seem exorbitant until you remember the exchange rate for pesos. 

The food is amazing. I was sure we were going to end up hovering near the bathroom after eating street tacos, but apparently, we have iron guts (or the food trucks are much cleaner than they appear). The tacos were delicious! (Big thanks to our friends for taking us on the adventure.) Of course, no family vacation would be complete without a few maladies. This time? Dad got stung by a thousand fire ants while standing guard for RJ to relieve himself in a Mexican plaza. (I swear we don't usually let him do that, but he had to GO, and honestly, no one bats an eye when dogs wee on trees.)

RJ partook in some crafting, which pleased School Mom to no end. He's not typically into things like art. I credit the beautiful little redhead to his right for his sudden interest. 

I mean, just look at this child--she's gorgeous!

In Gigi's world, she's a princess celebrity whose appearance could be outshone only by Cinderella herself. 

We ate dinner at a fantastically unique restaurant set in an Mayan cave, ALux. It was dark and damp with a natural waterfall just past our table. The food was tasty and non-Americanized in its portions; that is, dinner was delicious, and we ate what we ordered, feeling satisfied but not overstuffed. Yum.

I feel as though this may be foreshadowing at its finest. I hope that their first date doesn't involve both of them on their phones. 

These little ladies had such a good time, and I'm so thankful that Gigi had a friend to play kitchen with at the pool. 


Most nights, dinner looked more like this. Vacation Mom wished there was a dishwasher in our condo, but really, a full kitchen is the way to go with little ones. They ate their Fruit Loops on their own time, and they enjoyed supper in their 'jammies. 

Of course, a condo with maid service has its perks: towel bunnies!

And of course, there's the freedom to play. Here? RJ is pretending to be Gigi's pet dog. She enjoys the game just a bit too much. The furniture actually did have cushions; we just moved all of the cushions upstairs each night to pad the marble floor. Gigi took a swan dive off the bed the first night, ending with a nasty bruise on her forehead. We were just grateful there were no broken bones (or teeth). 

We spent a lot of time goofing in the pool. Vacation Mom finally trusted the waterproof phone case enough to take it underwater (with a little help from her friend Margarita).


Within two days, Gigi was well known at the pool, and for those who didn't know her and who tried to jump in and save her, I apologize. She's a little crazy. But we know that, and we've taught her to swim. She needs a sign around her neck, "I'm older than I look. I'm short. But I can swim." 

Water baby.

Poor baby. By day 7, he had hives and was forced to wear his sister's long-sleeved rash guard. Sunblock burned his face and was impossible to rub in. But none of this slowed him down. 

He's a competitor at heart--racing the waves. 


Vacation Mom likes selfies. 



Of course, no trip to the beach is complete without a few dressy photos. (I actually did bring my good camera; the phone camera was just so easy, hence the phone photos for most of the trip. Vacation Mom is all about easy.)


I wore this dress on my honeymoon--ten years ago! Hooray for running!


For a six-year old, our photographer was pretty incredible. 




Look at this little woman's suntan. I promise, even Vacation Mom is a stickler about sunscreen. The dress? It was mine. Mom and dad brought it back from Acapulco when I was two. 

I tried to make her take it off for the plane trip home. She refused and wore it with turquoise striped shorts. The water is turquoise in this part of Mexico. Her dress is from Mexico. By transitive properties, the outfit matched. Or, Vacation Mom just didn't care. 

After a week away, RJ's comment summed it up best for himself and sissy: "I'm just so glad I'm back to normal chocolate milk!"

After approximately 15 hours of travel seated beside or on Vacation Mom, Gigi agreed to sit beside dad on the flight home--and promptly shut her mouth to fall asleep. Life isn't fair to Vacation Mom sometimes. 

Then again, Vacation Mom has very little to complain about. 

In the end? We rinsed the sand from our feet....

And made it blissfully home. (He walked into the house, kicked off his shoes, and zonked sound asleep on his living room floor.). 

Special thanks to our friends, the Watsons. You guys were fantastic hosts. Your kids are polite, smarty pants, and pleasant to be around. We had a great time! This family vacation thing is the bees knees.